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On this Page: AIMS of EFS --- Comments from Service Users
On Other EFS Pages:
--- ALIVE.NOW Page: Message and Practices for becoming more whole
--- EFS Self-Help Materials: Love-Circulation Method --- Welcome Method --- Inħeles Minn Ġewwa
--- FREE TRAINING: for individuals, groups, staff teams, people-practitioners--- in-person and online
--- De-STRESS and Relax to become more free
The Emotional Freedom Service
AIMS of the Emotional Freedom Service
Learning to release emotional distress
Broad Aim: The target category of service users are persons with emotional distress who are freely motivated to try releasing it, and who do not have mental illness unless referred by a mental health professional. The overall aim is to reduce suffering of such distressed individuals, of any faith or none, and to promote their self-empowerment so that they may have life that is freer and more abundant, psychologically, socially, and where appropriate spiritually. |
Specific objectives: ≈ To release emotional distress of motivated distressed individual service users, and bring about happiness and peace. ≈ To assist user self-empowerment by investigating with the users their root issues, and by sharing with them self-help methods of releasing such distress and of preventing future distress. |
CommenTS by Users of the Service
➢ Albert is a young man having intense back-home tensions. In the 2nd Session: (After a long silence) “I am feeling like melted butter. As if I am in a forest, feeling positive. I am going to have a picture of a forest made for me. I am feeling that I am passing through a deep change, like from a caterpillar to a butterfly.”
➢ Alex is an elderly man experiencing alienation from close family members. In the 1 st Session: “I feel much better than when I came in for the session.”
➢ Agnes is a middle-aged woman struggling with her emotions. “You have calmed me miraculously. During this method, I feel happier! No, I wasn’t sleepy, but I could not open my eyes because I relaxed so much!”
➢ Adrienne is a young woman angry at her parents’ separation that disrupted the family and emotionally removed the children from their sources of support. “I do not feel the anger at all now. I feel better.”
➢ Alex is an elderly man experiencing alienation from close family members. In the 1 st Session: “I feel much better than when I came in for the session.”
➢ Agnes is a middle-aged woman struggling with her emotions. “You have calmed me miraculously. During this method, I feel happier! No, I wasn’t sleepy, but I could not open my eyes because I relaxed so much!”
➢ Adrienne is a young woman angry at her parents’ separation that disrupted the family and emotionally removed the children from their sources of support. “I do not feel the anger at all now. I feel better.”
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➢ Brenda is a middle-aged woman with a painful self-image and a lack of confidence in certain contexts. Shortly after her first session, she wrote: “I just had my first Trial. I met one of those persons I mentioned in our session, the ones that make me feel inferior and, to my big surprise, I could talk to the person with more confidence than I usually do. It’s amazing. I think it’s working.”
➢ Carol is a young woman whose feelings of rejection, bereavement grief and sadness have made her feel humiliated and lonely, closed in upon herself. In the 1st session she said: “Earlier in this session, when I visualized myself giving love to someone, I had stomach-tightening and a voice saying, ‘No, no, no, don’t give love!’. But now the voice is much less strong, and my stomach less tight.” In the 2nd session she said: “I am now accepting reality; I accept now that things are not perfect, and that’s the way it is. I spoke to [the person who rejected me] and I now understand that he has fears of getting hurt, and is afraid of getting together with me.”
➢ Cynthia is a woman who was still troubled by events at her former place of work. In the 2nd session she covered her mouth with her hand and, when asked whether she was well, she explained: “It’s as if I am releasing stuff from my stomach. I am burping and a little nauseous as if I need to throw up. No, not literally; I don’t need to go to the toilet.”
➢ Colin is an elderly man troubled by anxieties. After the 2nd session he said: “I have found my new self.”
➢ Conrad is a young man with a chaotic parental home, poor level of confidence in his own perceptions and a phobia of getting sick, being afraid of touching surfaces for fear of contaminating his hands. Four days after the 1st session, he wrote: “I had much less obsessive thoughts about getting sick – and only one-tenth the intensity of before.” During the 2nd session he said: “I now see that it was my parents that were delusional [not myself], and my own perceptions were true. I now see that I was observant! This boosts my current [adult] self-worth.” In the 3 rd session, he said: “My phobia regarding getting [a particular type of sickness] over the last week recurred only once, and only lightly. When I thought about it, it was not with fear. I can’t even see why I was phobic about vomiting. The shouting at home no longer triggers a fear of sickness, just an anxiety. The phobia was taking over my life and I did not have any choice. It’s a miracle – within the [7 days of] these sessions the phobia symptoms have disappeared. I was surprised by their effectiveness. The next morning, I did not even have a thought of what I had been fearing. Before, I had been so anxious, always thinking of the worst-case scenario.”
➢ Damaris is a woman who has been angry since childhood because of her father’s behaviour that “took away her childhood”. During the 1st session she said: “I feel much better now. I feel a new person! The inner child work really helped me. I never did that kind of work with my past therapists – they just told me I have to confront dad.”
➢ Edna is an elderly Christian woman troubled for years by anger, insecurity, and endogenous depression. In one of her sessions she said: “I feel perfectly safe and good. …I think you are my teacher. It’s amazing how you are guiding me through this process of re-organising my “self” on the way to becoming Christ-led and free of the fear of surrendering.”
➢ Laurel is a middle-aged woman troubled by childhood related non-forgiveness issues; eating and sleeping difficulties and psychosomatic symptoms; excessive fearfulness of risk and disasters; finding it hard to release repetitive thoughts; and insufficient self-appreciation. In the 1st and 2nd sessions it was discovered that a major source of her troubles was that she was unable to distinguish her own from her deceased mother’s values and bitter perceptions of people. At one point in the 1st session, she sighed in relief and said: “Inħallejt!” (I feel tensions dissolved). She forgave the person concerned. She reported that she felt happy after the session. During the 2nd session, she felt the strong umbilical cord binding her to her late mother’s perceptions went from 100% to zero. She found the experience “relieving!”. She called the session “very helpful.”
➢ Miro is a young boy, over-stressed, fearful, and angry because of fighting parents. Although it was clear during the session that the accompanying parent was unloading adult frustrations judgmentally onto the boy, the boy reported practically total relief of his felt distress. Because of the style of parenting involved, there is no doubt that the boy faces renewed excessive and damaging stress daily. During the session he said: “If I had magic, I would stop my [parent] shouting.”
➢ Roderika is a woman who has extreme anxiety, stress, fear, embarrassment, and certain medical issues. In the 1st session she said: “I am feeling my body releasing stress. I feel that I am being released from everything. There is a slight pleasant shivering. I felt the stiffness releasing out of my body. These methods work! I am super tranquil. I am feeling tears of joy.”
➢ Ronalda is a troubled young woman bearing the emotional scars of close family member’s sexual abuse, horrible past and present relations with her mother, and various traumas. Her emotional scars included intense hatred, anger, hurt, sadness, a sense of being rejected and betrayed, and possibly an aversion against becoming happy, which at some level she feels she does not deserve to be. In the 2nd session she was able to relax deeply, saying: “I feel calmer already. I felt my body pleasantly parked; I’m not sleepy but rather more awake, and calm.” In further sessions she released much of her traumatisation and made progress towards forgiveness.
➢ Sandrine is a middle-aged working woman suffering from the emotional impact of put downs from senior colleagues at work. These events, coming on top of earlier marital problems, resulted in a sense of unworthiness, self-blame, fear, sadness, lack of energy, lack of capacity for enjoying previously enjoyable pursuits, eating problems, and a sense of hurt, which she felt attacked her from the inside. The sense of hurt vanished in the 1st session. The fear and stress dissolved away in the 2nd session. While relaxing, she saw colours that she understood to mean: “I feel the light coming in; it has replaced the darkness.” At the end of the session she said, “I feel great peace and relief.”
➢ Seraphine is a middle-aged woman with a serious personality disorder, referred to the Emotional Freedom Service by a mental health professional. She has had a history of various traumas, including being violently physically attacked, various felt betrayals, etc. In one of her several sessions she said, “You are giving me something that no doctor or anybody has been able to give me.”
➢ Serena is a young woman troubled by adverse childhood experiences, depressive, obsessive, and invasive thoughts, fears, and insomnia. In the 1st session a major fear subsided completely. On arriving for the 2nd session she reported: “My main obsession vanished because of what we did in the 1st session.” Improvements were obtained in other aspects of her distress. However, mental illness was suspected, and she was thus referred to the LWIEN service of our Foundation.
➢ Carol is a young woman whose feelings of rejection, bereavement grief and sadness have made her feel humiliated and lonely, closed in upon herself. In the 1st session she said: “Earlier in this session, when I visualized myself giving love to someone, I had stomach-tightening and a voice saying, ‘No, no, no, don’t give love!’. But now the voice is much less strong, and my stomach less tight.” In the 2nd session she said: “I am now accepting reality; I accept now that things are not perfect, and that’s the way it is. I spoke to [the person who rejected me] and I now understand that he has fears of getting hurt, and is afraid of getting together with me.”
➢ Cynthia is a woman who was still troubled by events at her former place of work. In the 2nd session she covered her mouth with her hand and, when asked whether she was well, she explained: “It’s as if I am releasing stuff from my stomach. I am burping and a little nauseous as if I need to throw up. No, not literally; I don’t need to go to the toilet.”
➢ Colin is an elderly man troubled by anxieties. After the 2nd session he said: “I have found my new self.”
➢ Conrad is a young man with a chaotic parental home, poor level of confidence in his own perceptions and a phobia of getting sick, being afraid of touching surfaces for fear of contaminating his hands. Four days after the 1st session, he wrote: “I had much less obsessive thoughts about getting sick – and only one-tenth the intensity of before.” During the 2nd session he said: “I now see that it was my parents that were delusional [not myself], and my own perceptions were true. I now see that I was observant! This boosts my current [adult] self-worth.” In the 3 rd session, he said: “My phobia regarding getting [a particular type of sickness] over the last week recurred only once, and only lightly. When I thought about it, it was not with fear. I can’t even see why I was phobic about vomiting. The shouting at home no longer triggers a fear of sickness, just an anxiety. The phobia was taking over my life and I did not have any choice. It’s a miracle – within the [7 days of] these sessions the phobia symptoms have disappeared. I was surprised by their effectiveness. The next morning, I did not even have a thought of what I had been fearing. Before, I had been so anxious, always thinking of the worst-case scenario.”
➢ Damaris is a woman who has been angry since childhood because of her father’s behaviour that “took away her childhood”. During the 1st session she said: “I feel much better now. I feel a new person! The inner child work really helped me. I never did that kind of work with my past therapists – they just told me I have to confront dad.”
➢ Edna is an elderly Christian woman troubled for years by anger, insecurity, and endogenous depression. In one of her sessions she said: “I feel perfectly safe and good. …I think you are my teacher. It’s amazing how you are guiding me through this process of re-organising my “self” on the way to becoming Christ-led and free of the fear of surrendering.”
➢ Laurel is a middle-aged woman troubled by childhood related non-forgiveness issues; eating and sleeping difficulties and psychosomatic symptoms; excessive fearfulness of risk and disasters; finding it hard to release repetitive thoughts; and insufficient self-appreciation. In the 1st and 2nd sessions it was discovered that a major source of her troubles was that she was unable to distinguish her own from her deceased mother’s values and bitter perceptions of people. At one point in the 1st session, she sighed in relief and said: “Inħallejt!” (I feel tensions dissolved). She forgave the person concerned. She reported that she felt happy after the session. During the 2nd session, she felt the strong umbilical cord binding her to her late mother’s perceptions went from 100% to zero. She found the experience “relieving!”. She called the session “very helpful.”
➢ Miro is a young boy, over-stressed, fearful, and angry because of fighting parents. Although it was clear during the session that the accompanying parent was unloading adult frustrations judgmentally onto the boy, the boy reported practically total relief of his felt distress. Because of the style of parenting involved, there is no doubt that the boy faces renewed excessive and damaging stress daily. During the session he said: “If I had magic, I would stop my [parent] shouting.”
➢ Roderika is a woman who has extreme anxiety, stress, fear, embarrassment, and certain medical issues. In the 1st session she said: “I am feeling my body releasing stress. I feel that I am being released from everything. There is a slight pleasant shivering. I felt the stiffness releasing out of my body. These methods work! I am super tranquil. I am feeling tears of joy.”
➢ Ronalda is a troubled young woman bearing the emotional scars of close family member’s sexual abuse, horrible past and present relations with her mother, and various traumas. Her emotional scars included intense hatred, anger, hurt, sadness, a sense of being rejected and betrayed, and possibly an aversion against becoming happy, which at some level she feels she does not deserve to be. In the 2nd session she was able to relax deeply, saying: “I feel calmer already. I felt my body pleasantly parked; I’m not sleepy but rather more awake, and calm.” In further sessions she released much of her traumatisation and made progress towards forgiveness.
➢ Sandrine is a middle-aged working woman suffering from the emotional impact of put downs from senior colleagues at work. These events, coming on top of earlier marital problems, resulted in a sense of unworthiness, self-blame, fear, sadness, lack of energy, lack of capacity for enjoying previously enjoyable pursuits, eating problems, and a sense of hurt, which she felt attacked her from the inside. The sense of hurt vanished in the 1st session. The fear and stress dissolved away in the 2nd session. While relaxing, she saw colours that she understood to mean: “I feel the light coming in; it has replaced the darkness.” At the end of the session she said, “I feel great peace and relief.”
➢ Seraphine is a middle-aged woman with a serious personality disorder, referred to the Emotional Freedom Service by a mental health professional. She has had a history of various traumas, including being violently physically attacked, various felt betrayals, etc. In one of her several sessions she said, “You are giving me something that no doctor or anybody has been able to give me.”
➢ Serena is a young woman troubled by adverse childhood experiences, depressive, obsessive, and invasive thoughts, fears, and insomnia. In the 1st session a major fear subsided completely. On arriving for the 2nd session she reported: “My main obsession vanished because of what we did in the 1st session.” Improvements were obtained in other aspects of her distress. However, mental illness was suspected, and she was thus referred to the LWIEN service of our Foundation.